Two Sundays ago I wrote a letter to the editor of my local paper, The Garden Island newspaper. I include a link with this warning: when a letter is too sexy the publisher riddles the text with ads.
So here it is, ad free: Letter for Sunday March 17, 2019
Women Of Kapahi Unite
It’s 7 a.m. Wednesday in Kapahi, mist still hovers across treetops and the road not yet awake with a morning commute. It’s me and two elder dogs slowly making our way to the falls.
On the return home I catch movement from the corner of my eye and realize I’ve made a grave error. I pass the house of a man my age (mid-50’s) buck naked framed by the doorway of his garage, touching himself, aggressively, and looking directly at me. By aggressively, I mean, masturbating.
Anyone who knows me would think I’d verbally and loudly abuse this perverse knucklehead. But I don’t. It’s the third time it’s happened and not the first time I’ll report it. It stuns me to silence. My silence angers me almost as much as his act.
I call KPD. They arrive at my door quickly and we converse about how to handle this. The end result being, without a second witness or a photo, there’s no probable cause for citation.
So, I return to the scene and walk door-to-door. One neighbor nods affirmatively when I point to his house: “Oh, yah. He does this all the time. Not to me. But I’ve had multiple women warn me and I don’t let my daughter walk alone to the park.”
I leave my number asking her to let these women know I need them to step forward.
If you are reading this and any of it sounds familiar please contact the investigating officer, Manuel Rivera, MRivera@kauai.gov or call 241-1711.
It published on a Sunday, posted to Facebook soon after, and by Tuesday there were dozens of women coming forward with two decades of stories of this same individual wagging his junk at them, chasing them down Kapahi Rd., or even worse. One responder is the husband of a victim. By Friday three of us gave statements to an investigator for the prosecuting attorney.
Women, and the men who love them, are rising to reclaim a singular voice. My husband told me that when he tries to protect me and there's no recourse against people like this, he feels emasculated. We heal together by taking action.
Most of these ladies made reports to the police, some as many as four times. Somehow this bastard escapes being cited over the past two decades. In fact, when I went to the precinct, a cop told me my report was the only one in six years. And another cop told me it's not against the law to beat off on your own property.
My response, "Yah it is. If I'm on a public road..." Then I stood closer to him to demonstrate how vigorously the perv was stroking himself not 20 feet from me.
Later I'd learn of many other women who've called KPD multiple times, all of us receiving the same pat response:
"It's his word against yours and unless you have a picture or there are two of you, we can't cite him."
Well we'll see.... Expect more updates.